When we point at others three fingers are pointing back at us.
One of the things that the Lord asks us to do is to stop and look for the beauty in each person no matter how difficult we or others may think they are, but it does help to remember that many people felt Jesus was very difficult, enough to kill Him, thank goodness our judgment of others does not cause us to want to do this or does it?
We can kill them with our self inflated thoughts such as, well after all they do this and that and I never do any of these things, and after all they talk too much, but I’m a good listener. Also they show their feelings too openly, don’t they realize we should always put on a happy face, it embarrasses me when they’re upset or express themselves in a demonstrative way. Did you see how overweight they are and those old fashioned clothes, they even stutter.
I have every right to make this judgment, after all I’m Trained and I’m accepted by friends who are important and influential people, and they are a nobody without degrees or proper training. I do and have done so much to help others, why can’t they be more like me then they would be easier to Love.
God’s word tells us to consider others better then ourselves, so it’s hard to find someone we can call difficult, but when we do call others this, we too become difficult and more then they are. Our attitude then should be humble wanting to serve them, respecting them and holding them in high esteem because of their position in the Lord, instead of demeaning them with what we think they should or should not do, or how they should be if they want our approval.
We need to serve others in humility not pity or because we think we have to, we need to want to from our heart because they are worth it, because Jesus tells us they are, and when it is from our heart we will think they are too. We will be tolerant but it will be genuine and not from our head and when it is from the heart then our thoughts, words and actions will reflect our Love for them and they won’t wear us out because we will enjoy their company, then because of our Love and acceptance they will heal and respond back in Love, but it may take time, so our patience will need to come from the Holy Spirit not ourselves.
Everyone has a need to be Loved and accepted, weaknesses and all, but this is not talking about accepting their sin as ok, just the persons own idiosyncrasies or unusual personalities or things we may find annoying, and of course if they don’t agree with what we think and feel even if not confirmed in Scripture, well of course they are difficult and hard to Love. But what about the things we do that annoy others, how would we feel if others had us on their difficult list as someone just to hard to Love, but felt oh well after all I’m a Christian poor thing guess I will need to overlook how inferior they are won’t I, and maybe it will help me learn more patience and tolerance, anyway they can’t help it , after all they had a hard life or come from the wrong side of town so have lots of hang-ups or whatever.
“Bit patronizing don’t you think?” Maybe they are just wanting people to Love them and see their Worth as a Child of God. Perhaps they are hurting and feel that no one cares.
We need to Love from our heart and then we can tear up our lists because no one will be difficult in our eyes, perhaps hurting, perhaps different, perhaps even unusual from us in their ways, perhaps unloved by others or not accepted, but we then give them more Love like Jesus did, no He didn’t accept sin as ok but He accepted everyone enough to die for them and He never exulted himself above others in His attitudes and feelings towards them, He had no need to, He knew His worth so no one was on His difficult list, even the Pharisees he offered His Love and Friendship to, no He didn’t like their sinful actions but He Loved them. He considered us all the same in need of forgiveness, Love, acceptance and healing.
So this tells us we are to Love others not from our head but from our heart. We need to stop the phoniness and move on in genuine Love accepting others, crying with them, helping to carry their burdens, spurring them on towards good deeds, rejoicing with them, being encouraging and supporting instead of labeling others to exalt ourselves. When we do this it shows we are hurting too, so we need to seek Jesus for His healing, only He can set us free.
Remember God tells us the very people we put down are the ones He will use to show us just how much we lack and when we put labels on them we are also doing this to the Lord, when we hurt others we hurt Him and when we reject others as people of worth, we are rejecting Him as important in our lives.
1 Corinthians 1: 27-29 But God hath chosen the foolish things of the world to confound the wise; and God hath chosen the weak things of the world to confound the things which are mighty; And base things of the world, and things which are despised, hath God chosen, yea, and things which are not, to bring to nought things that are: That no flesh should glory in His presence.
Philippians 2: 1-5
Romans 13:8 – 10
Romans 15: 1-3
1 Corinthians 13
Corinthians 12:12 -24
1 Corinthians 13
1 Corinthians 1: 27- 29