Adopted … for those who waited, your a gift sent from God…

Baby 7012SDPsalm 68:4-6 A Father of the fatherless, and a judge of the widows, is God in His Holy habitation. God setteth the solitary in families: He bringeth out those which are bound with chains: but the rebellious dwell in a dry land.

SDAdoption is more than just a word; to some it’s a wonderful long awaited blessing that brings great Love and Joy into their lives and to those who consider their unborn child before themselves, it’s a choice to allow their helpless baby to have the gift of life and to be wanted and Loved. To some others, sadly it means that you’re inferior, less than those who are Birth Children. I read about a woman who said to her younger sister… “I still love you even though you’re Adopted.” 

SDTo be Adopted by God means we are His precious and cherished Children, His Sons and Daughters. Read below just how much He  values us….

SDEphesians 1:4-6 According as He hath chosen us in Him before the foundation of the world, that we should be Holy and without blame before Him in Love, Having predestination us unto the adoption of children by Jesus Christ to Himself, according to the good pleasure of His will, To the praise of the glory of His grace, wherein He hath made us accepted in the beloved.

SDRomans 8:14-16 For all who are being led by the Spirit of God, these are sons/daughters of God.  For you have not received a spirit of slavery leading to fear again, but you have received a spirit of Adoption as sons by which we cry out, “Abba! Father!”  The Spirit Himself testifies with our spirit that we are children of God, (NASB)

SDThose who have read my “A life that is Blessed ”  know I’m Adopted and how that has impacted me for good and bad, ( see Link below) but today I want to share my friend Kathy’s Story about her Adoption , told in her own words. Kathy is a wonderful friend. We have been through the ups and downs life brings together. Kathy helped me greatly in setting up the Heavenly Lights, program for my Christian Weight Loss Groups. She is part of my Blessed Life that I thank God for often.

SDMy Blessed Life-  https://freedomborn.wordpress.com/2011/09/27/the-early-years-a-little-lost-girl/

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KATHY - 7SDKathy’s Adoption  Story…

SDMany people have problems with the idea of Adoption.  I have never had any issues with mine.  Maybe because my brother and I were adopted by two very special people who loved us as their very own.  My parents told me that I was adopted when I was eight years old, so I grew up with the knowledge, instead of having it thrust upon me at a later age when it would have become a shock. 

SDI will never, ever forget what my father said to me when he told me.  He said “Mum and I couldn’t have children of our own, so God gave you and your brother to us as a very special gift”.  He also added, “Other people have to have their children if they want them or not, but we picked you out special!” Not that biological children are not wanted!!! I think it was just his way of trying to get across to me how very special we were to him.

SDThe word “adopted” was never used.  Not because we were ashamed of it, but because my parents absolutely refused to put any label on us that showed that we were not “really” theirs. If ever my father heard someone introduce their child as “my adopted son/daughter”, he would look as if he were going to haul off and hit them! (Which of course, he never did, because he was a kind, gentle man).

SDI have two biological children, and I know that the mothering I got from my mum, and the mothering I gave my children, are both identical.  It isn’t the act of giving birth that makes you a mother, but what comes after it.  And the care I got from my mum was “above and beyond the call of duty”.

SDThen, a few years ago, the family of my mother’s brother did a family tree.  I never saw it, but my mother angrily told me that under her and dad’s names they had written “no issue”.  She was livid!  We did not come from their bodies, but we were legally theirs, and they could have written “Adopted children”, instead of putting down on paper that we did not exist.  I was going to voice my opinion, but mum begged me not to, so I keep my feelings to myself.

SDIn any case, when you have Parents that want you and love you so much, it does heal the hurts. 

SDMy father died at 61.  Now, 40 years later, I still miss him very much.  My mother is in a hostel, and recently turned 98.  Now, every time my brother and I visit her, she says “I have the two best kids in the world”, or “We made the best choice”.  God made the best choice of Parents for us.

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I have now been Adopted twice.  The first time when I was a baby, and the second when I was in my early thirties, and accepted the Lord Jesus Christ as my Saviour.  Then I became a child of God, my Heavenly Father.  Since then He has shown me in countless ways how much He loves me, and how He is always there for me.  And I often wonder if He, too, gets as upset as my earthly Parents did when people deny that He is their TRUE Heavenly Father.

SDThank you Kathy for sharing  your Adoption Story with us, and also  your Faith in our God of Love, may you be greatly Blessed as you have have blessed others.

SDChristian Love  from both of us Anne.

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About Freedomborn ... Aussie Christian Focus

Hi I’m a Spiritual Child of The King of Kings and Lord of Lords, my name is Anne. I live in Queensland Australia, I’m very much a People person believing we are all people of worth and unique, so I have much Joy in sharing with people personally and over the Internet. My main focus in life is my wonderful Friendship with Jesus Christ, without Him everything else would be meaningless, I have deep heartfelt thanks and appreciation that I'm a Spiritual Child of The King of Kings and I seek to share with others how truly wonderful that is with the hope they too will realize the same and be set free.
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  3. jesusmyjoy says:

    i’m getting ready to write a piece on unleavened bread.

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  4. Deborah says:

    You expressed that beautifully, Anne, and I was blessed by Kathy’s story. Blessings and love in Christ.

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    • Thank you Deborah, Kathy was also pleased her story blessed you and each time I read I am again too, it has so much of God’s Love shown to her and her brother by her Parents.

      Thank you also Deborah for reading my Link, as you know expressing my thoughts in writing is not always easy for me but I’m always thankful when I do as I’m often blessed by what I write, not meaning my thoughts but God’s.

      Christian Love Always – Anne

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    • Kathy Bonorchis says:

      Dear Deborah
      So glad that my story could bring a blessing to someone’s life. Thank you and God bless you.
      Kathy

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  5. Ron says:

    Heartwarming story by Kathy of her relationship with her mother and father . they obviously were Christians and knew that the two children were Gods gift to them Sad when we read many natural born families don’t have that loving relationship . Glad God thinks that we are a gift to Him ! Guess that’s why He loves us ,no strings attached , called Grace !

    Blessings
    Ron

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    • Yes Ron, God is Love and does indeed Love us and because we Love Him we obey Him. Kathy was very blessed I agree, what a wonderful family.

      Christian Love – Anne.

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    • Kathy Bonorchis says:

      Hey Ron
      You know some of my story, and the person I was before the Lord came into my life. For as many blessings, there were some “happenings” that turned me inside out. But Praise God, He found me, and turned me right side out again! I often think of just how much He has blessed me since I asked Him into my life, and I am overwhelmed by it all. Of course, one of those blessings has been your friendship. Thank you.
      Kathy

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  7. Once again, you made my heart soar with words of love, hope and faith. “Adoption is more than just a word; to some it’s a wonderful long awaited blessing that brings great Love and Joy into their lives and to those who consider their unborn child before themselves, it’s a choice to allow their helpless baby to have the gift of life and to be wanted and Loved.” My sister just adopted a beautiful baby girl. It was planned but God planned it for them. One day, a friend just called them about the baby and that very day they travelled by land and sea to be with her. It was a miracle. I am so happy for them. God bless you, your family and all that opens their hearts to our orphans in this world.

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    • What wonderful news Island Traveler, every baby is a gift from God but how special when empty arms are filled.

      Thank you for your encouragement, I look forward to your visits dear friend, you always seek to uplift. .

      Christian Love Always from both of us – Anne

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    • Kathy Bonorchis says:

      Dear Island Traveler
      Your sister must be a wonderful person to adopt this child to love and care for as her own. I pray their lives will be as blessed as mine was.

      Kathy

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  8. Kathy Bonorchis says:

    Hi Annie
    Thanks for allowing my story to be told. It is true that some adoption stories do not end well. But for every one that doesn’t, I know lots that do. And I know that there are many, many children out there — my brother and I included — who would be homeless, or in an orphanage, or worse, aborted, if adoption was not available. And I think of people like my Mum and Dad, who are willing to give children like us a loving home. There is another part of my story I never told. Apparently my birth grandmother spent a week in a psychiatric hospital, so my papers were marked “history of mental illness”. One week in a psychiatric hospital is by no means an issue of mental illness! But three couples refused me before Mum and Dad took me in. To them, I was a child in need of a home, and they weren’t going to focus on any other issue than that. Thank God for them!
    See ya soon my friend. Keep up the good work!

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    • Thank you again Kathy for sharing your story with my Blogging friends, you have a wonderful story to tell, as for your Grandmother’s diagnosis, they often make mistakes with Mental illness, it’s mostly just guess work, especially with Depression, it can even be caused through what is eaten but how sad that you were not wanted because of this but then how good that your wonderful Parents took you in the end … God is so good.

      Christian Love …Annie

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      • Kathy Bonorchis says:

        Yeah, Annie
        One more small detail that I forgot — my Grandmother was married to an alcoholic and had 19 children (including my birth mother). Who wouldn’t end up where she did!
        Kathy

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        • Hummmm some who have just one child end up the same, it all depends on your tucker is it God’s or the worlds. With your Grandmother only being in hospital for a week we can see who kept you safe, your mother could have aborted you but God knew you would stand strong for Him against all opposition and His planes for you were good, He intervened and so you had Parents that cherished you like He does, He knows how much we can endure, some he lightens the load, others He strengthens.

          Thank you for your thankfulness for those who commented.

          Love you dear friend, I will be in touch soon – Anne

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  9. What a great and moving story. It is so true that it is not the act of giving birth that matters so much but that which follows. Nowadays we hear a lot of inspirational stories of people whose own parents abandoned them and then those who adopted them were angels of God for them. I loved the part where she says that second time around Our Lord Jesus adopted her. It reminded me that yesterday my 91 year old neighbor said to me while talking that we are all God’s children. It made me feel so good. Great post, I appreciate your kind gesture to share it with us. Thanks and God bless.

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    • Thank you Samina, like me Kathy was very touched by your encouraging comment, yes she was indeed blessed in having the Parents that she had, often she has shared about them with me and I thought how good it would be for her to share the positives of being Adopted with all my Blogging friends, I’m very grateful she did.

      Christian Love – Anne

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    • Kathy Bonorchis says:

      Thank you saminaiqbal27. I love sharing my story, especially with those who appreciate it. There is so much gloom and doom these days, and those who see God in a negative light. I wanted to share just how much sunshine He can shed on life if we allow Him to.
      Kathy

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      • Thank you so much for sharing a very inspiring story. I am very impressed and touched by it. Your experience shows the positive and good side of humanity and in these days I appreciate reading encouraging and inspirational experiences of people. Reading about you restores one’s faith in humanity. Thanks for the visit. Take care and God bless.

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        • Thank you Samina, for replying to Kathy, you are very kind and you have greatly encouraged her, like most of my friends Blogging is new to her but hopefully her experience today will motivate Kathy to think about starting her own Blog, she is very gifted and has a great understanding about life issues.

          Christian Love – Anne

          P.S I was wondering how do you spell your name? my spell check shows my way is in error.

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          • It was my pleasure responding to Kathy and I am very happy that she feels good about it. And yes you have spelled my name right Samina it is . Thanks. Spell check will make it look like an error, but your spelling is correct.

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